Are Soulmates Real?

You come home from a first date and you excitedly exclaim to your friend “I just met my soulmate!” You felt an instant connection with the person and you are floating on cloud nine. Did you just meet your soulmate or not?

Let’s take a deeper look into the definition and concept of soulmates to help answer this question.

By definition a soulmate is “a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament;  a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs (quote merriam-webster dictionary). 

In my personal opinion, I feel that the idea of a soulmate has been vastly romanticized in society and this can often be to our detriment.

Let me explain… Finding one's soulmate has become a goal in our lives, especially when we are young. We come up with a wishlist of characteristics and qualities for our perfect mate and we search for the one special person to check off every box.

But what if we have more than one soulmate and what if soulmates weren’t only meant to be just like us? 

What if a soulmate could be someone very different than us and who helps us learn and grow through tension or difficulty? 

I wholeheartedly believe in the concept of soulmates. I also understand how it feels to meet more than one, personally. When you meet a soulmate, you will very likely experience a magnetic pull towards them. They will feel familiar in some way and you’ll likely feel like you’ve known them before. It’s a feeling that is hard to describe but you will know it when you feel it, just like you’ll know the feeling of love when you experience it yourself.

What I've learned over the years is that soulmates are not just a romantic partner. You can also find a soulmate connection in a grandparent, a friend, a co-worker, your child, a pet!  A soulmate does not have to be just like us, in my opinion. A soulmate can be quite different from us and come into our lives to help us grow and evolve.

• A soulmate can come into our lives and stay with us for good, as that parent, child, spouse, or life long friend.
• A soulmate may only stay in our lives for a season and exit after we’ve both learned what we had to learn from each other.
• A soulmate may be exactly like us in so many ways  and have many of  the same interests and aspirations. They feel like a mirror image.
• A soulmate may be our opposite in many ways and we may experience challenges and tension with them.

You may be thinking ‘how will I know if I’ve met my soulmate then’?

 I believe that your soul will recognise when you’ve met one and it's through the feeling of familiarity and/or that magnetic pull towards them. 

This is not to be confused with being attracted to someone and feeling that pull towards them although you may experience that too in the case of romantic soulmates. The purpose of finding soulmates in life is for growth and evolution. I believe that before we are born we choose our lives and we choose the people who we will encounter. Many people come and go in our lives but the ones who have made a substantial and lasting impact? Those are the soulmates.

I believe that we make soul contracts with our soulmates before we are born. We understand from the soul's perspective what we need to grow and evolve in our lifetime. Your soulmate(s) would agree to come into your life and help facilitate and accelerate the intended growth you, as a soul, chose. 

When the intended soul growth you want to learn is particularly ingrained in our energetic blueprint and we have karma to release, it would make complete sense to the soul that that growth may need some tension and challenges to happen. Insert a soulmate that may have agreed to help you achieve this growth through tension and struggle!

Soulmates come in all shapes and sizes. We can have many in our lifetimes. Sometimes they are romantic and everything feels like magic. Sometimes we feel some friction with our interactions with them. The important takeaway is that when you meet yours, you’ll forever be changed.